Love? Relationships ?
I realized a certain trend,so many of my friends likes asking me about their love life,relationship problems.I do not know if they ask everyone the same question,but I also do my best to let them know my views.
Relationships always comes bundled with lotsa love and also tons of problems.Do they actually give us a better life ? Or just something to let us worry and think about constantly.In a way,no one can specifically tell everyone that they like what kinda spouse and end up with them.I've known of long standing relationship torn apart just because of a certain," I dont think we suit each other,lets break up." This sounds ironic,if you know you dont like a certain thing,you should know it during the so-called honeymoon stage,where couples look into each other and know each other better.
But still problems arises,from a teenage girl to a full fledged working coporate personnel,many of them are faced with the problems of the heart.Y?Y do people even allow problems into their life when they worked so hard for it? Till now,no one can tell me confidently how their relationship will end up happily or become a memory.
Think of yourself as a non living thing,say e.g a vending machine? As a vending machine,you see so many people daily and you'll never know who will slow down to buy a drink from,stop to observe.If someone buys a drink from you and realise he/she doesnt get his change,I'm sure he/she will curse and might even kick you.But you as the vending machine have no say cos you cant give him the change when there's no change in your coin compartment.The only thing you can do is to blink up that "no change given" light. You wont appreciate the mechanic coming to fill you up with drinks and to do regular servicing,because you deem right that it is he/she job to fix u up well.
Firstly,in regards to the above mentioned,its the same as you will or never know who will be the next one to come into your life.Is this someone here to stay or just another passer-by ? You know this certain someone gave in alot to the relationship,but you cant do much cos you dont know how to,or you just take things for granted,this explains the part when I mentioned above when change is not given.Quarrels arises because a certain party feels that he been giving in and not receiving the same as return.And many people will just say,"before we were together,I've already told you I'm a very bad girlfren/boyfren." This refers to the blink up of the no change light.
And the mechanic,there's always this poor someone that's always beside you,no matter what,but people misunderstood this thinking and went one to develop feelings for people of the same gender,defeating the whole purpose of the human cycle.Human cycle is the death and rebirth of human beings,which means separation and births. This is so wrong,in my point of view.Everyone will have their own special someone who will always be there,be it,you find him some years or friends that you've lost contact,I'm sure they will help you when ever you need help.But often we neglect them,cos we will just laugh aloud,'we are never possible lah."
Though I cant say I'm a great boyfriend,but I know deep down I can be one,and to have a relationship and maintain it,is to understand it and embrace it.Forget about the jealousy and suspecting aspects,then you will know even if you're with the lousiest guy/girl,you can still smile at your own relationship.
Be sure of your feelings,I can be with certain girls for sometime intensively,like doing almost everything together,and realising I like her.But is this the actual love that is so vital for a relationship to bloom? I beg to differ,I can develop such feelings with so many people given the time.Some would say they never fall in love so easily,its only because they are trapped in their past memories,making them unable to embrace the next one cos the previous one still lingers on.
Think for yourself,how many times had an almost perfect guy/girl that appeared in your life,treats you so well,you feel to that extend you are the luckiest person? But do you accept them?If you do,maybe you do feel for them.If you didnt,its because you are still holding on to the past.So in a way they didnt lose out to your memories,they lost to time.IF they have known you before that special someone in your one,they would have been the special someone....
Remember-----We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love - first to their advantage, then to their disadvantage."
Relationships always comes bundled with lotsa love and also tons of problems.Do they actually give us a better life ? Or just something to let us worry and think about constantly.In a way,no one can specifically tell everyone that they like what kinda spouse and end up with them.I've known of long standing relationship torn apart just because of a certain," I dont think we suit each other,lets break up." This sounds ironic,if you know you dont like a certain thing,you should know it during the so-called honeymoon stage,where couples look into each other and know each other better.
But still problems arises,from a teenage girl to a full fledged working coporate personnel,many of them are faced with the problems of the heart.Y?Y do people even allow problems into their life when they worked so hard for it? Till now,no one can tell me confidently how their relationship will end up happily or become a memory.
Think of yourself as a non living thing,say e.g a vending machine? As a vending machine,you see so many people daily and you'll never know who will slow down to buy a drink from,stop to observe.If someone buys a drink from you and realise he/she doesnt get his change,I'm sure he/she will curse and might even kick you.But you as the vending machine have no say cos you cant give him the change when there's no change in your coin compartment.The only thing you can do is to blink up that "no change given" light. You wont appreciate the mechanic coming to fill you up with drinks and to do regular servicing,because you deem right that it is he/she job to fix u up well.
Firstly,in regards to the above mentioned,its the same as you will or never know who will be the next one to come into your life.Is this someone here to stay or just another passer-by ? You know this certain someone gave in alot to the relationship,but you cant do much cos you dont know how to,or you just take things for granted,this explains the part when I mentioned above when change is not given.Quarrels arises because a certain party feels that he been giving in and not receiving the same as return.And many people will just say,"before we were together,I've already told you I'm a very bad girlfren/boyfren." This refers to the blink up of the no change light.
And the mechanic,there's always this poor someone that's always beside you,no matter what,but people misunderstood this thinking and went one to develop feelings for people of the same gender,defeating the whole purpose of the human cycle.Human cycle is the death and rebirth of human beings,which means separation and births. This is so wrong,in my point of view.Everyone will have their own special someone who will always be there,be it,you find him some years or friends that you've lost contact,I'm sure they will help you when ever you need help.But often we neglect them,cos we will just laugh aloud,'we are never possible lah."
Though I cant say I'm a great boyfriend,but I know deep down I can be one,and to have a relationship and maintain it,is to understand it and embrace it.Forget about the jealousy and suspecting aspects,then you will know even if you're with the lousiest guy/girl,you can still smile at your own relationship.
Be sure of your feelings,I can be with certain girls for sometime intensively,like doing almost everything together,and realising I like her.But is this the actual love that is so vital for a relationship to bloom? I beg to differ,I can develop such feelings with so many people given the time.Some would say they never fall in love so easily,its only because they are trapped in their past memories,making them unable to embrace the next one cos the previous one still lingers on.
Think for yourself,how many times had an almost perfect guy/girl that appeared in your life,treats you so well,you feel to that extend you are the luckiest person? But do you accept them?If you do,maybe you do feel for them.If you didnt,its because you are still holding on to the past.So in a way they didnt lose out to your memories,they lost to time.IF they have known you before that special someone in your one,they would have been the special someone....
Remember-----We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love - first to their advantage, then to their disadvantage."
posted by Derek Tan at
7/26/2005 10:35:00 AM
4 Comments:
further explain this line..."We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love - first to their advantage, then to their disadvantage." ....me sotong cannot get it...
Intially every relationship starts off sweet,we are so lovey dovey and willing to give in everything...but not 100% from the heart,which means u expect something from return,then after some time,you start betraying that certain kind of love in the relationship,this occur when u start taking things for granted...
nvr want tat to happen to myself nor my love one...
ya...but just an overall personal comment...U wont lah,your a nice girl lor..
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